Posted by Spanish Native in India | Posted in Coffee Chat | Posted on 08-08-2010
Yesterday night we were watching TV and suddenly found a program called Emotional Atyachaar. In this program there was one guy making a “loyalty test” to his girlfriend. What was this loyalty test about? Well, the loyalty test was to send a boy or as they say “undercover agent” on purpose to pretend that he liked the girl and ask her out for dates. What she didn’t know is that there were hidden cameras everywhere they went and everything was being recorded. On the studio this guy was watching how his girlfriend was going out with another guy and cursing a lot.
The twist was that the TV show also followed him without his notice and found out that he was having another girlfriend! Yes, this guy was having 2 girlfriends at the same time for almost 4 years and was angry coz one of them was “cheating” on him… LOL. Can you imagine?
Finally they took both girls to one place and make them realize who was him and what he was doing. When the three of them where together the girls just got crazy and beat him.
Besides the sensationalism of the show this makes me think about the relationships in India. Is there any value in a relationship for them. Do the young generations know how to behave in a relationship? I got to the conclusion that maybe not so much. And why? Maybe because young generations have just started to explore what is to have a BF/ GF. Maybe because they think that as they live in a big metro they can do whatever they want and nobody will know. Maybe they just got the wrong idea from what they have seen on the TV or internet. Maybe it’s just like a game for them. Maybe they just want to have some fun.
And what happens to the ones that believe in a relationship? They might get hurt too. Still young people go for the traditional way of arranged marriages in India. Most of them are just passing the time with their boyfriends or girlfriends but how many of them are in a really committed relationship, how many see a future and are actually planning for a more serious thing like getting married? How many of them are ready for taking their own decisions in life instead of accepting the family decision?
Life in metros is still very traditional after all.
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Well it’s not actually like this but every relationship is based on some foundation and if the foundation is strong the future is build otherwise it will collapse. Yes we do like to have fun and we do not want to have any kind of liability of relationship as well as to our actions so we sometimes, with mutual agreement, indulge into fun that doesn’t mean commitment. Of course the boy in the TV serial was stupid…
Thanks anyway…
Thanks for your comment Sunil. It helps me to have a better insight of how things work here.
Interesting post.
Though personally I’d insist that let’s not be so gullible to believe that definition of infidelity or lack of mutual commitment is anyway country-specific. Doing so will be oversimplifying the issue. Remember reality TVs telecast exactly what we want to watch: sensationalism! We love it or we hate it… but we talk about it nevertheless. A love-story without a twist is not salable. After all it’s all a matter of television rating!
It’ll be unfair to judge ‘relationships in India’ …or in fact ‘in any other country’ based on such petty & tasteless supply. It’s a vast subject, to learn more we should depend on more serious sources of information.
Anyway, I came to know about this show after reading your post. I was curious so took a close look & instantly noticed that Emotional Atyachaar is loosely based on a Western reality show ‘Sex Decoy: Love Stings’, which was on air last year in Fox Reality Channel across United States.
Google it, the episodes are on YT.
You may also want to take a look, I stumbled upon this blog, relevant: http://www.theincomparable.com/2009/08/sex-decoy-tv-stinks.html
@Cookie_crumbles Thanks for commenting
My intention wasn’t to use the show as an icon of what relationships are or aren’t in India because if I think of that topic then I have more questions than answers. It is more like I’ve started to live in a new country and culture and so I see whatever comes first to me and gives me an impression, good or bad. I also see the news of the “honor killings” and that scares me a lot and I feel like this is so creepy. This is a vast topic and also this is a complex society that I hope to start understanding little by little with the help of others.